Quick Read
- Sophie Winkleman, Lady Frederick Windsor, has spoken for the first time about the ‘brutal’ death of her sister-in-law’s husband, Thomas Kingston.
- Kingston died in February 2024 after an adverse reaction to prescribed mental health medication, with the inquest attributing his death to these side effects.
- Winkleman describes royal life as ‘total hell,’ citing intense media scrutiny and a lack of privacy.
- She continues her acting career, starring in the upcoming BBC drama ‘Wild Cherry.’
- Her family now advocates for greater awareness of mental health medication risks.
Sophie Winkleman Confronts Tragedy and the Realities of Royal Life
Sophie Winkleman is used to life in the spotlight, but not always by choice. Known to television audiences as the witty Big Suze in Peep Show and now as Lady Frederick Windsor, her public persona is a blend of acclaimed actress and member of Britain’s extended royal family. Yet, in a year marked by personal tragedy and new creative ventures, Winkleman has found herself reflecting on both the cost and complexity of her unique position.
‘Brutal’ Loss: Speaking Out on Thomas Kingston’s Death
In November 2025, Sophie Winkleman broke her silence about the death of her sister-in-law’s husband, Thomas Kingston—a tragedy that shook the royal family and reverberated far beyond palace walls. Kingston, married to Lady Gabriella Kingston, died in February 2024 from a shotgun wound at his parents’ home in the Cotswolds. The inquest found that an adverse reaction to prescribed medication likely played a critical role. “That was a big tragedy in our lives, and we all miss him every day. My girls adored him,” Winkleman shared in a recent interview, her words underscored by raw honesty. “It’s brutal. We’re still in touch with all his family and it feels like he’s still with us.”
Kingston’s sudden death, ruled as a suicide, came after he experienced side effects from antidepressants and sleeping medication prescribed to him for work-related stress. Lady Gabriella, daughter of Prince and Princess Michael of Kent, has since called for greater awareness about the risks associated with such medications. “If this could happen to Tom, this could happen to anyone,” she stated during the inquest at Gloucestershire Coroner’s Court, highlighting the need for better warnings and mental health support. (Mirror)
Winkleman’s own family has been deeply affected. Her husband, Lord Frederick Windsor, has begun supporting James’ Place, a charity dedicated to helping men with suicidal thoughts. For Winkleman, the loss has been a stark reminder that “the exterior of someone can be very different from what’s going on inside.”
Royal Life: ‘A Form of Torture’
Despite her proximity to privilege, Winkleman is clear-eyed about the challenges of royal existence. In a candid interview with The Sunday Times, she likened the experience of being royal to “total hell” and “a form of torture.” The constant glare of the media, the lack of privacy, and the uncertainty about whom to trust—all have left a deep impression. “None of them went on Pop Idol or something to be famous. To have that sort of blinding spotlight in your face from when you’re born, not knowing quite whom you can trust, not knowing if someone’s going to betray you, people writing lies about you the whole time, is just brutal. I don’t think a life with that much scrutiny and pressure is remotely healthy, but they have no choice.” (woman&home)
Winkleman’s reflections are informed by her own experiences and those of her extended family. After a serious car accident years ago, she recounted how the royal family, including King Charles, rallied to support her during her months of recovery. Meals were sent from Clarence House, and the outpouring of care showed her a different, private side of royal life—one marked by loyalty and compassion. “I heard from pretty much every member of Freddie’s family, I was spoiled to bits by them,” she recalled. But even these gestures cannot erase the relentless scrutiny that comes with royal status.
Balancing Two Worlds: Career and Duty
While Winkleman has held the title Lady Frederick Windsor since marrying Lord Frederick in 2009, she continues to carve her own path in the world of acting. She’s starred in television hits like Peep Show and Sanditon, appeared alongside Hollywood names in Wonka, and now takes on a new role in the BBC thriller Wild Cherry. In this stylish drama set in the fictional enclave of Richford Lake, Winkleman plays one of the community’s privileged mothers, bringing both sophistication and depth to the screen. (Mail Plus)
This dual existence—balancing creative ambition with public duty—sets Winkleman apart from many of her royal peers. She’s not alone in this; the Duchess of Sussex, Meghan Markle, is reportedly returning to acting as well. But Winkleman’s approach is notably understated, often using her maiden name professionally while maintaining close ties with the royal family.
Her journey underscores the reality that, despite appearances, royal life is far from a fairytale. The challenges of public scrutiny, the weight of tradition, and the ever-present risk of personal tragedies are part of daily life. Yet, for Winkleman, there’s also resilience, humor, and an enduring commitment to both her family and her craft.
Awareness, Advocacy, and Looking Forward
Since Thomas Kingston’s death, Winkleman and her family have become more vocal advocates for mental health awareness. Lady Gabriella’s plea for better information about medication side effects resonates with families across the UK and beyond. As Winkleman notes, “it makes you so much more aware that the exterior of someone can be very different from what’s going on inside.”
With her new BBC project on the horizon and a renewed sense of purpose, Winkleman is channeling both her pain and her privilege into work that matters—on screen and off. Her story is a reminder that even in the most gilded circles, life’s challenges are real, and compassion is essential.
Sophie Winkleman’s experience offers a rare window into the intersection of celebrity, royalty, and real-life hardship. Her willingness to speak honestly about grief, mental health, and the pressures of fame not only humanizes the royal family but also spotlights the need for more open conversations about vulnerability and support, no matter one’s status.

